Emotional Connection? Well, every one of us are curious about this emotional connect in a relationship maybe because either it is either lacking in your relationship or you feel confused about the intimacy in your relationship and how it works. Emotional connect is to be built in a relationship- it is not present innately since you start dating. It depends on the inter-personal relationship you have with your partner and how much of an effort you put into it to make it work and grow in its quality.
Emotional connect applies to all relationships- the budding relationship or a relationship that has been around for quite some time. The fast-paced and the interactive socially inter-connected world that we live in require things to be transparent- at least with your partner. The need for TLC, the need for communicating- two ways and most importantly understanding the need for listening and remain silent and getting our emotional needs met- by way of communicating in any given social situation. Every relationship is different and they need different and fresh ideas when it comes to emotional bonding.
The things that one needs or rather, wants in a relationship is to feel included in the lives of the partner. Only when one is included in good as well as the bad times, will there be a budding emotional connect that will help you identify and connect with the person and grow, all this while having a control of our individual lives– you cannot exert force in a relationship – if it has to grow it will and it will grow only when you are in complete control of your own life, while including the other person in it. At last but not the least is to feel liked and accepted by the other person, at least feeling accepted if not liked, especially during the early stages of the relationship.
So, how do you feel emotionally connected? What and how do we perceive it?
Basically, an emotional connection is how we give and receive the emotional support we all need. You will give the kind of support that you feel you need, and naturally, you expect the similar kind of emotional support from your partner. But, expecting them to give similar kind of support that you gave them is too much to expect- you HAVE to pick up cues from the kind of support they need- needs vary from person to person and the way they deal with it is quite different as well- failing to respond accordingly to the needs of your partner is the main cause of de-railing the journey of a relationship. Always remember, relationship is the only journey which has ups and downs, highs and lows, and it is never smooth sailing. You have many obstructions, barricades, storms, but how bravely you face them with maturity forms the strong foundation of the relationship. The first step in forming a emotional connect is to realize what is your emotional need and style– being emotionally connected and emotionally available to your partner is not rocket science that you have to ponder and over thing on it- you simply have to pay attention to your feelings and to your body language.
Relationship is ever-building, You cannot simply have a relationship once and forget about it. You have to keep building it throughout. One has numerous opportunities for emotional interaction in a relationship and emotional needs are not always the same- But, remember you don’t have to be talkative to be engaged in a conversation, you can simply be understanding and reply with a gentle touch, hug, smile or maybe a chocolate when they need it. It may all seem awkward and uncomfortable, but that doesn’t mean that you can get away from it without doing it.
At the start of the relationship, you should have a clarity on the type of the relationship you really want and need and work out on the issues that are stopping you from getting the deserving and happy relationship you want. The most important point is to love and have an emotional connect with a partner- who sees the real you- and accepts you as you are.
It is always possible to build an emotional connect with a partner, or the guy/ girl you like- all you have to do is never over think and go with your guts and feelings & Be Yourself!
By: Archa Dave
